Winning is getting up ... and finishing the race ... with every last ounce of effort... and no thought as to how hard you have fallen.
Learning to trust. When the answers are not what we want to hear, we can tune them out and say we are not connected to source. The answers are still there. When we are ready - we allow the truth to set us free.
What follows is a dialogue. The issue: trusting the inner guidance when the external view offers conflicting input, learning how to see through the clouds of emotions.
She (anonymous friend - story used with permission) kept having dreams. In the dreams, her lover was cheating on her. She told him about the dreams, how it troubled her and asked if there was something he needed to tell her. He scoffed at the possibility the dreams might have a hidden meaning and denied cheating. She discovered he was cheating.
She questioned her ability and her gift. Why the dreams and why did she not trust that information?
My response. Dream interpretation programs drop the ball when it comes to this form of inner communication/knowing. This is the response from a dream program. The question: "dream my boyfriend is cheating on me." The dream program response suggests the dreamer is insecure and projecting a problem upon the other party.
Sometimes, that might be the case. It isn't the case here.
--- An active or conscious dreamer must do a bit of homework to personalize information. It doesn't come from a book. We dream our lives before and in the process of manifesting them. Information comes that offers potential outcomes and much of the time it is in code. Cracking that personalized code requires effort. It isn't a thing dream interpretation programs can teach. The first step is learning to pay attention. In this dream there is a huge message. The message will be given after I relate some of what was spelled out in our conversation.The premonition dream of having a cheating lover is a sign and a warning. However, when we are afraid of seeing things and we are insecure in our own knowing, we taint the outcome or project our fear... To read the message. One must withhold judgment. The dream is simply information. Whatever will be. And it will be for a greater purpose. And no matter the result, we are just dreaming. The outcome is still a work in progress. The bigger picture is always available when we suspend judgment.
When we have premonitions in dreams, we are using the dream to deliver information from outside of normal time. Dream books and conventional dream interpretation symbols do little to address this type of creative and manifest dreaming. A conscious and interactive dreamer can use the dream as a tool to navigate the in between state where all is potential. We can step out of the daily drama and determine a greater awareness without the emotional baggage.
she: (-- her response is personal --)
Sometimes things/situations/persons we hold very dear are not longterm... we feel sad or bad or wrong when they are lost... and then something better comes into view... and we are given an upgrade ... because we allowed the dream to continue... rather than trying to affix and stick the situation as we desire it because we believe it is best for us. As we cannot see around the corner, best is relative.
she: I see.
When we are afraid, our actions can trigger or set up an encounter or relationship that plays out the scenario we are afraid of. If we understand that little quirk, we realize the lesson and stop setting up the drama. We choose those who allow us to focus on a better dream ..so to speak... ;)
No good, no bad. All learning... and a work in progress. We get through this elementary stuff and the real stuff starts to appear. Some call it magic or miracles. It is simply a different level of reality. But we can't get to that point if we get stuck in our emotions. Make sense?
she: yes, it does. thank you, Wendy
Thank you -- as I was answering I realized how universal the question is. How can I learn to trust when I am getting mixed messages from the daily drama and my dreams? We simply learn and grow from our relationships and create ways to connect to and trust our own guidance even when we are overwhelmed by emotions. We can learn to read around it. You know more than you think.. ;)
It doesn't mean you will end a relationship. It does mean you will understand better why you are with a person and how that helps you to become aware of what you are setting up or revealing about yourself. And if/when you want to move on, you can - without being angry at someone else. Sad, yes. Angry? No point. The goal was to become self aware. The other helped assist that process. We love and learn.
The message: accurate insight or divination requires allowing the truth to be neither bad nor good, simply part of the solution and the journey. We outgrow the need to blame others for our learning curve.